Hi gang! It’s been 11 weeks of being home, and tomorrow I’m going back to work for the first time since April. I suspect I won’t really be back online the way I was before, but I’ll be around spaces like this a little more often, and with a little more library/education/tech related posts.
I figured, though, it might be useful to blog the re-entry process for those who will be in this position at some point or coming back from some other extended time away. So, I’m doing a post here on the general planning and how we used our maternity leave, and I’ll be participating in Library Day in the Life this week.
I planned to use the entire 12 weeks available to me. Half of that includes using up all but a few hours of my vacation/sick time for the year. Hopefully we’ll make it to December with minimal incidents! John had been saving up PTO for this and took off four weeks with me, then he’s worked three day weeks until tomorrow, when he goes back full time. We decided to take off as much overlapping time as possible so that the three of us could spend a lot of time together. However, that does mean that Leif only got three months at home before starting daycare.
The plan was that we’d have a lot of time to hang out since we’d have two adults to split the duties. But with my complicated delivery and recovery, that meant I spent the first four or five weeks just recovering and feeding Leif, while John did pretty much everything else. It worked well for us… John is as much of an expert on Leif as I am… though it meant the first few weeks didn’t play out as expected. That was just the first case of having to be flexible about the things we planned. (Well, second, after the delivery.) It’s a good thing we knew we’d need to be flexible!
I had thought that I’d have lots of baby nap time to use to think about things, do a little extracurricular work (maybe write something or plan a presentation I have scheduled for October). However, Leif’s not a big napper. His tend to be fairly short and frequent which meant that I barely could sit down at the computer, bring something up, and it was time to take care of the baby again. Though I might have felt like I was just spinning wheels the entire time as far as professional stuff goes, I certainly was working and getting a lot of good interaction time in with Leif.
At 11 weeks we started Leif in daycare for half-days. We did this to give Leif (and us!) two weeks of half days to get used to daycare. I thought we were being generous in that planning, but now I’m realizing that it would never be enough. I know I won’t feel ready for Leif to be there full time in August when he starts. As it is, I don’t even like that he’s there as little as he is.
So, last week Leif started half days and I used the time to do things that I didn’t have time to do while watching him full time (you know, like writing thank you notes, addressing birth announcements, running any errands, checking email). Next week I’m working half days while Leif is in daycare for half days. I’m actually going back a few days early so that I’ll be able to spread the hours I’m supposed to work next week out over five days instead of three. The following week we’ll both be full time, but I’ll be going in at lunch to feed him.
And daycare is hard. I knew it would be. (That’s why we have this elaborate plan.) But it’s still harder than I even imagined, and the hardest thing I’ve ever done. This coming from someone who was without work for 6 months after college, who worked full time/went to grad school/planned a wedding and honeymoon at the same time, and has written two books back to back. This also coming from someone who loves their profession so much that they wrote a book about it, works at an incredible library and university, and feels great about the daycare we’re using. And John and I truly believe that for our situation, and with our child, daycare will be really good for him in the long run. We’re looking forward to the additional caring adults in his life, the peers, seeing that his parents enjoy their professions and that work can be fun, and all kinds of other benefits that will come from it in the long run. It’s just hard to think about those big-picture benefits when dropping off an 11 week old for a morning.
I imagine that I’ll be minimally online for the next few weeks as I adjust to the new schedule, and I’m going to be working hard to see how I can streamline my work to do more of it at work and use the evenings for my family. But once I get more in the swing of things I’ll be around. Looking forward to joining back in the conversation!
Oh, and if there have been any interesting library/ed/tech related things that you’ve seen this summer, please post in the comments or email or something… I’d love to know what you guys have thought was important!
I’ve done some challenging things: I went six months after college with no job prospects whatsoever, I went to grad school/worked full time/and got married all at the same time. I wrote two books pretty much back to back. And my labor wasn’t exactly a walk in the park. However, sending Leif to daycare was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. and I love my job, I love my career so much that I wrote a book about it it.I don’t know how I would do it if I didn’t.
I feel really good about this daycare, and I know that in the long run it will be really good for Leif. I know day care isn’t for everyone, but some of the things I’m excited about: playing wtih kids, other loving adults, teaching Leif that you can love your work, easier to make sure we have high quality time when we are together, etc. But wow, that’s hard.
That being said, I feel our transition plan is making it as easy as it could be.
week one
week two
full time/nurse at lunch
Leif doesn’t love the bottle and isn’t eating nearly as much the hours in daycare as he is at home. Hopefully when he goes full time he’ll get better. Otherwise, I’m in for evenings of almost nothing but nursing.
Started meeting some of the other parents, which is fun. Nice to know others in similar life phase.